I really benefited from all the interaction on that last post. Keep posting if you have thoughts. Briefly, I've already kind of said it, but my opinion is I would go to both situations. However, as several of you pointed out quite well, this is a complex issue. What is the nature of a wedding? What does my attendance communicate? Symbolize? To my "friend" getting married? To other people?
I also think that either going or not going could be done wrongly. If I don't go and don't communicate my love to the other person then I am wrong in my actions. If I go and don't communicate the truth to the other person, then I am wrong in my actions. I also think you could not attend and still communicate your love for the person, though this might be more difficult.
In the end though, I think I would go as long as I knew the other person well enough that my absence would be a slight and as long as I was willing and able to lovingly communicate my disagreement with their decision while communicating my support for them as a person. I don't think that my presence necessarily "condones" or "affirms" what they are doing. Some might take it that way, but if I've communicated with the person correctly, they won't take it that way. Also, like some of you have said, if I err I want to err on the side of love.
Anyway, that's not about this weekend at all. I'm doing a presentation to
Concord Missionary Baptist Church this afternoon with a team to help them improve their Mobilization Process. I'm very excited and hope that we genuinely help them move forward in this area.
Then I'm traveling to Tyler with my pastor. He asked me and another guy to tag along with him. I know what he's doing here. He had a couple of hours in a car and thought, "I can listen to ESPN radio for a while or I can build into the lives of a couple of clueless seminary students." :-) Anyway, I am really looking forward to the chat time.
Then tonight I'm going to a Men's retreat ("Fast Break") which lasts until noon on Saturday. I'm excited about this because a guy I spent some time discipling at our old apartment complex is coming with us.
Oh yeah, on Sunday, I'm teaching the first of a month-long series in my (young marrieds) sunday school class on "ministering together as a couple."
Holy Cow!! That's a bit much. I'm just realizing how much I have to do now! Well, if you can, please pray for all this. I think I've overcommitted a tad.